The Holy Spirit is Awesome!! – Writing My Brother’s Obituary (Part 2)


Today’s Message:

Confirmation That The Holy Spirit Was There…Writing My Brother’s Obituary

Hey Neighbor,


I had never been to a Memorial Service before and really didn’t know what to expect. The clubhouse at My Aunt Jean’s Retirement Community Center, in Rialto was beautifully decorated.  The food was being prepared in the kitchen and the people were streaming in…greeting one another and making their way to their seats.

However…there was no body…no casket…nor was there an urn filled with my Brother’s ashes.  Other than family, I didn’t know or recognize any of the faces in the room. Feeling sort of lost…I sat there looking at the different faces, wondering what was their relationship to my brother.  Tony had lived in Rialto for about 7 years and so I wondered whether these unidentified faces were Tony’s friends, neighbors or maybe his co-workers.

By Now…The Holy Spirit was urging me to get up to go find out who these people were…and so I reluctantly, obeyed.

I was not sure what I was going to say, as I approached a lovely couple that had been sitting quietly….about three rows behind me.   I introduced myself as Hubert’s Sister and I asked them how they had become acquainted with my brother.  They began to tell Me that they were My Brother’s customers from Coco’s…the restaurant where he worked. They went on to tell me about how they had gone into the restaurant and had requested to be seated in Tony’s section, as they did usually, when one of the female employees began to tell them that Hubert had passed away, as she pointed to the Memorial that Management had setup for Tony, near the store entrance.

The gentleman’s wife went on to express how she and her husband had loved to dine in Tony’s seating area at Coco’s and she remarked about how cheerful Tony was…with his bright smile and those big eyes.

Now if You’ve already read Tony’s Obituary in Yesterday’s Message…You would understand why I was standing there with my jaw dropped… listening to her story about My Brother…thinking to myself, “NO WAY…That’s what I wrote in his Obit!”

You See…I didn’t really know much about where My Brother had worked, prior to his death.  I wasn’t even completely sure of the name of the Restaurant.  So while I was writing the obituary, I had called my Aunt Dorothy, who filled me in, giving me the full name of the restaurant.  She had also told me that Tony was a Waiter at Coco’s, because I wasn’t sure if he was the cook or if he was a waiter…I just knew that he loved waiting tables.

So…I was  just standing there, listening in awe, as these people confirmed with their mouths…words that I thought that I had written.  I’m certain they didn’t realize it…but they were confirming information for me that I was not privy to.  I had never visited Tony at any of his job locations, even when he had worked at home in Illinois.  When I wrote the obit,  I really could only imagine that Tony was good at his job and that he must have had a good report with his customers and that he had acquired ‘regulars,’ after having been with the company for over 6 years.

I was AMAZED!!

As I continued to ‘work the room’…ALL of the ladies I spoke with went on and on about Tony being a ‘real’ gentleman and about how handsome He was…but these elderly ladies also went on and on about how helpful Tony was…whether they needed a piece of furniture moved in their apartment or needed something cleaned-up.

They also mentioned how Tony would not accept any payment or tip for his service to them…Tony just wanted to help!!


So I’m sitting down by now, amazed with yet More confirmation of the Words…that I, again…thought that I had written!!

When the Service had finally begun, each person that wanted to share their stories about Tony was allotted 2 minutes to speak.  I was very touched by the testimonies, but there was one in particular that left me astounded….

As one of the Pastor’s began to speak about My Brother…he talked about how He would pull in through the gates, park his car and begin to unload his groceries, when Tony would hurry over to help him to carry his groceries inside.  I thought Wow!!

Again…Words that I thought that I had written!!

That was when I realized that The Holy Spirit had been there with Me All along through this entire thing!!

He had Comforted Me…when the tears wouldn’t stop flowing!!

He had Counseled Me…when I couldn’t understand the sudden loss!!

He had Helped Me…to set things in order and  get my tail in gear to California!!

He had been my Advocate…speaking for Me when I didn’t know what to say!!

He Interceded on my behalf…as He brought peace between My Brother and I before He passed away!!

He Strengthened me…when I was too weak to Stand!!

He was there All ALONG…Standing By Me…and when my word’s were not sufficient…He was there…substituted His Words for Mine…As He Wrote My Brother’s Obituary, for the Glory of God!!

I Praise God For His Holy Spirit!!

Thanks For  Stopping By, Neighbor,

God Loves You and So Do I!!


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The Holy Spirit Is Awesome!! – Writing Tony’s Obituary


-I have told you these things while I am still with you. But the Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, Standby), the Holy Spirit, Whom the Father will send in My name [in My place, to represent Me and act on My behalf], He will teach you all things. And He will cause you to recall (will remind you of, bring to your remembrance) everything I have told you-

(John 14:25-26)


Hey Neighbor,

God is Truly Amazing!!

We had a beautiful Memorial Service for my brother, Tony in Rialto, California on March 15, 2015.  As the arrangements were being made for his Service, My niece, Sherre called me and asked me if I would write an obituary about Tony.  Of Course, I was honored to do it, but I knew that it would be a tear-filled, bittersweet process.

But, I thank God that His Holy Spirit was right there with me…inspiring my thoughts as I pressed the pen against the page…He gave me the Words to Write.

He lead me to the old family photo album, and as I sat there flipping through the pages, He brought precious moments back into my rememberance as He began to fill-in and fill-up the gaps of the years that Tony and I had lost in silence…when We were not speaking to one another.

And So….I was just truly Amazed at How The Holy Spirit confirmed the words that He had inspired me to write..when I met and spoke with so many of Tony’s friends, neighbors and customers in California, who had come out to pay their respects, to bid him farewell, and to share their memories about My Big Brother.

So….Tomorrow I will share more about How The Holy Spirit Comforted Our Family and Confirmed His Words during The Memorial Service.

The ‘H.S.’ (Holy Spirit) is Awesome!!

But For today, I would like to share with You, the Words The ‘H.S.’ shared with Me, as We wrote Tony’s Obit.

Here is Tony’s Obituary….



Hubert F. “Tony” Horton, III, 45, departed from this life on February 23, 2015 in Rialto, Ca. He passed on to heaven peacefully, in his home, on Monday afternoon with his eldest Aunt.

Hubert was born to the late, Hubert F, Horton, Jr. and Tangee (Gillespie) Horton on December 16, 1969 in Centreville, IL.

He graduated from East St. Louis, Sr. High School in 1987 and received his Certified Nursing Assistant’s (CNA) License from Belleville Area College; both in Illinois.

Tony confessed his love for Jesus Christ at Mt. Paran Missionary Baptist Church in East St. Louis, where he served as a Deacon, and was also wed to Melissa (Rumph) Horton, on April 20, 1990. Their marital union was brief, ending in divorce, but produced a baby girl, Tony’s beloved Sherree.

Hubert resided in Centreville, IL. for 30+ years and worked as a CNA at Calvin Johnson’s Nursing Home in Belleville, IL., in addition to other, various restaurants, until he relocated to California.  Hubert briefly resided in Santa Barbara, prior to his enlistment into the U.S. Navy in 2002. Hubert Served as a Chef aboard the U.S.S. Abraham Lincoln in the 2nd Gulf War, “Operation Iraqi Freedom.”

After the War, Hubert was Honorably Discharged from the Navy and returned to California, where he finally made his home in Rialto. He worked at Coco’s Bakery Restaurant in Rialto, as a Waiter. It was that bright smile and those ‘big eyes’ that kept his customers coming back to dine in his seating area.

Tony was passionate about his love for the Lord. He loved reading his bible and often carried it with him to work, where he anticipated opportunities to ‘steal away’ to read and pray.

Tony was happy, handsome, and extremely helpful. He loved to help his ‘Aunties,’ but he was also available to help other residents in their community center. He was ready and able to assist…whether he was opening your door, carrying in your bag of groceries, or cleaning up your house, Tony just wanted to Help!

Hubert is survived by (2) daughters; Sandra Sherre Horton of Fairview Heights, IL., and Kate-Lynn Horton of Illinois. He is also survived by his beloved Mother, Tangee Sherree (Gillespie) Horton of O’Fallon, IL., and (2) sisters; Lollie (Lloyd) Cotten of Belleville, IL. and Tamarra (Dewitt) Weary of Columbia, IL; and His First Cousin, Who Was ‘Like-A-Brother,’ Albert Nelson of San Bernardino, CA.

Hubert also leaves (4) cherished California ‘Aunties’ to mourn him; Dr. Lugenia Horton of Rialto; Dorothy (Horton) Nicholson of Santa Barbara; and JoAnn (Horton) Nelson of San Bernardino; and Lovella Horton of Perris, Ca. and (5) Uncles; Lloyd White of St. Louis, Mo; James L. Horton of Long Beach, Ca; Robert A. Horton Sr. of Washington Park, IL; Terrance A. Green lee and Jeremy V. Greenlee of Chicago, Illinois.

Tony will be fondly remembered and dearly missed by a host of Uncles, Aunts, Nieces, Nephews, (1) great-niece; (1) great-nephew, Cousins, Friends, Neighbors, and Co-Workers.


Thanks For Stopping By, Neighbor.

There’s more to the story…Tomorrow!!

Until Then,

God Loves You And So Do I!!


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The ‘We-Stories’ Remain in Our Hearts!!



Hey Neighbor,

First, I want to say ThankYou!!…for Your Prayers and Condolences.

We are Still Moving Forward with My Brothers Funeral/Memorial Arangements.

Losing my Brother has certainly been different than losing my Dad 14 years ago. I didn’t realize how much of my own identity was wrapped up in being Tony’s ‘little sister.’ I think I lost a little bit of Myself…in loosing him.

Don’t get me wrong…I know that My identity in Christ has not changed…I am still going to heaven- but ONLY- because Jesus died for Me, and for My brother…saving Our sin-sick Souls.

But yet, a part of my childhood…not my ‘his-story,’ but my ‘her-story’ and…Tony’s and My ‘We-Story,’ from this life has passed on to the next.

I will have to wait until I see Tony again, in heaven, to laugh with him and share another…Remember when ‘WE……Story.’

Although our ‘WE…Stories’ remain alive, in my heart…the other participant…the other half of my ‘WE’ Story is gone…and because nobody else was there with Us…in that moment…Nobody else knows our ‘We…Story.’

It’s so amazing how We can spend so much of Our lives ‘mad’ at Somebody…for whatever reason…Remembering everything that He/She did to Offend Us. We get in agreement with satan and find ourselves open to any and all of his reasonings, theories, and justifications for continuing that feud…and for adding fuel to that fire!! And yet when they have passed on…It seems that We can only remember those sweet ‘We…stories.’


Look at how He begins to fill Our cold, hardened hearts and that space left empty, by the One who has passed on…with the sweet memories that We once shared with Our Loved Ones, as HE…God begins to negate all of those sad, cold, and painful Years…lost in Bitterness…With His Glorious Grace and His Marvelous Mercies!!

Our God is So Amazing!!

-And the [threshing] floors shall be full of grain and the vats shall overflow with juice [of the grape] and oil. And I will restore or replace for you the years that the locust has eaten–the hopping locust, the stripping locust, and and the crawling locust, My great army which I sent among you.-
(Joel 2:24-25)

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God Loves You and So Do I!!


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